Part 5, To Dance or not to Dance, that is thy Sport…

Sunday, May 16, 2010, 17:04

by Jean-Claude Dimech

“White men think dancing is funny. Girly. Embarrassing. Ask the average white male in Toronto to join your ballroom class and you’ll get a snicker and a refusal in none too subtle terms. The most commonly cited excuse is: Dancing is for girls and gay boys. But the crux of it is that Canadian men are supposed to play hockey, watch football and drink beer. White men don’t dance.”[1]

Men stay away from the dance floor but not only to avoid harassment from their peers. “Men have more things to learn than women. They have to learn to lead, they have to learn their own steps, and they have to learn to listen to music and how to move around well. They are afraid to look silly. Men are afraid to look awkward because when they want to do something they want to be good at it, not struggle with it. And then dancing, unfortunately, a lot of men struggle with it.”

Gender roles do play a prominent part in today’s lifestyle despite ominous attempts to move from the stereotype, masculinity is still largely associated with toughness, unemotional. Dancing is not like weightlifting, its a lot more graceful, in nightclubs you see people grinding and that’s ok. But to do anything that takes skill, that’s not seen as masculine. The problem of associating gayness with dancing is an ironic situation, this is a widespread myth which only serves to limit male’s capabilities and for starters, homosexuality can be considered as a widespread phenomena found in the majority of sport disciplines, also the fact that it actually involves dancing with a female counterpart, still the prospect of having a dance partner which is actually not your girlfriend or otherwise potentially off limits is still the major drawback that incites enormous anxiety.

Men are essentially missing the trees for the wood since, they are in a sense unaware of how much of a potential suitor would be a male how knows how to move from head to toe. Firstly women like having someone to dance with, secondly they think men are sexy when they dance, and thirdly, they respect a man who can shed the peer pressure and just do what he enjoys.

In conclusion the case of Dancesport can be happily declared absolved from all skepticism, stigma, and underestimation since it has just as much health benefits as any other sport. It encompasses physical endurance with artistic expression on par prestige of the finest ballet dancers, it is a highly demanding activity that needs constant training, and essentially is geared up for competitive purposes, in order to achieve higher levels and experienced technicality. It also presents a potential career prospect to aspire, since its is a whole lot more profitable than usually thought, and like wise in many other sports, only the very top ones succeed in actually reaching the highest ranks worldwide and becoming iconic celebrities. This in turn guarantees prestige and continued sponsorship. It is a way of life, an opportunity of expressing personal freedom, an intimate body language only understandable between two partners; it takes up every fibre of your being,  your are betting everything you have got, only serious commitment will bear the fruits of your sacrifice.

[1] featuring: Toronto Dance Article: White Men don’t dance

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